the straw and the camel's back

[mmegaera]

Some of you will have seen this twice, but...

Well, this is the end of an epoch for me. I've been a member of the Bujold mailing list for seventeen years, but I finally unsubscribed yesterday. Not, as most people apparently do, because of the volume, at least not in the traditional sense of the word, but because that volume simply got too ugly for me to deal with anymore. I'm not in a place where I can deal with that sort of ugliness right now, and may I say now how glad I am that there are other ways I'm staying connected with the many friends I did make there, including here?

Comments

[kk1raven]

If it feels ugly to you, I think that's a good decision. Online communities should bring something good to our lives, not create stress or aggravation. I ignore a lot of what gets said there. When I have time, I read discussions until they bore or annoy me then I quit and move on to a different discussion. I killfiled the most annoying people a long time ago and there are a few more I should get around to killfiling.

[mmegaera]

I've actually seen it worse on the list, but I'm not in a place mentally or emotionally to deal with bullies, because of relative stuff (my mother is in hospice and it's only a matter of a day or two now, apparently).

Anyone being unkind where I can see it is just more than I can deal with at this point. Esp. since I know what I'm going to have to deal with when I go down to Texas for the funeral (my sisters and I are all estranged from each other, and it's not pretty when we have to be in the same room together).

Anyway, sorry for dumping.

[kk1raven]

I'm sorry to hear about your mother. I can see how that would make you emotionally fragile, particularly when having to deal with your sisters as well. I hope the funeral turns out to be less stressful than you expect. My experience is that such things sometimes bring out the best in people and other times the worst. I hope for your sake that it is the best.

[mmegaera]

Thanks.