Facebook

[mmegaera]

Obviously I am an utter newbie there (I've had an account for a while, but just started using it this week), and am used to LJ/DW, where my account is my living room and I can tell people I don't appreciate them being rude to me here, but does one's Facebook wall not work that way? How does one deal with someone on one's FL who decides to be a troll about something one has posted, when the rest of the time they seem to be fairly decent? (this is a fellow Bujold listee -- or, rather, he's a former Bujold listee -- and he's on the Bujold Facebook group).

Is the only option simply to defriend them once and for all? Throw the baby out with the bathwater?

Is there a tutorial out there for how to work Facebook on a social rather than technical level? That will teach me how to keep people from being ugly to me on my own wall? Because if there isn't I suspect that's going to be the end of my personal social interaction there. If I can't avoid people being rude directly at me there the way I can here, then I'm not comfortable there. And "just don't interact back" is not an option. I am not a doormat and refuse to become one.

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[annathepiper]

Twitter is very, very transitory, yeah. Dara likes to think of it as one great big IM conversation, and that's about what I think about it--but one that you can wander into and out of as you like. I don't even try to keep up with everybody I follow on Twitter. I'll glance at Twitter every so often, maybe in particular a couple of accounts of interest. But it moves too fast for me to pay regular attention to it.

Facebook's easier since I can at least subscribe to updates from pages of authors or bands or singers I like, so I can read those at my leisure. And Facebook's better about letting you organize the people you follow into groups, so you can target the specific people you want to keep track of. (I make liberal use of lists, for example--and I tend to pay more attention to the people in my lists than to my main news feed, since Facebook's not quite as annoying in rearranging the output of stuff on your lists.)

On the other hand, Facebook's got a long history of not showing your own output to people, if you're running a page. So. >:|

I do actual regular status updates to Facebook and Google+ both--stuff that's long enough to be at least a little interesting, but not long enough for a blog post. I do shorter versions of the same for Twitter. But by and large I consider all of them mostly write-only media.

I've been known to have decent conversations on all three of those sites, but nothing as indepth as on LJ or DW. Or as easy to keep track of.

[mmegaera]

I didn't know I could organize Facebook into groups. That might make things easier in the long run.

I can count on the fingers of one hand the number of times I've IM'd [g], and those times were because the person on the other end insisted on that method of communication and I really needed to communicate with them. Unless getting technical help via "live chat" counts. Then it might take both hands. I've not liked it, at any rate. I despise typing conversations in realtime. It's the worst of both worlds. So that may explain my aversion to Twitter.

So what you post to Facebook and Google+ is different from what you post on your blog? I've just been mirroring my blog posts. Do you really think it's better to spend the extra time?

Interesting stuff, at any rate. Good to get another perspective, although I'm still kicking and screaming as I'm dragged away from LJ/DW [g].

[annathepiper]

Facebook differentiates between "lists" and "groups", so that's an important thing to keep in mind. You said you were on a Bujold group there, yes?

And yeah, I find the "lists" functionality there very helpful.

I actually also mirror my blog posts out to the social networks but I also post updates there that I don't post to the blog. Partly just because when I'm at work, posting amusing things to the social networks is a way to occupy myself while I'm also running or writing test code at the same time. And on Facebook in particular I like to periodically post things in French, just because I've got several Francophones following me there and every so often they give me pointers on how to improve my French.

And if there's something I need to get out IMMEDIATELY the social networks tend to be a faster way to do that. Say, if we have a power outage and our servers go down. We host other resources besides just my and Dara's website, so we need to tell people fast if a power outage takes us out.

[mmegaera]

Ah. Okay. I found the instructions on how to create lists, but I can't figure out how to follow them (they say to find the friends section, fine, then they say to click on "more" but there is no "more" to click on [wry g]). This is extremely typical of me and Facebook. I find the interface basically unusable.

Can't figure out how to get rid of the big gray box with the two white circles that happens whenever I cross-post from my blog, either [wry g]. I'm told it needs an author picture, but I can't figure out how to add one, either. It only happens when I'm cross-posting, not posting directly.

I wish I wasn't such a social media putz, but I am. I try to learn...

[annathepiper]

When I look at my Facebook timeline, I can see my lists in the left-hand sidebar, under "FRIENDS", yeah. The "More" to click on pops up if you hover your pointer over the word "FRIENDS", or anything else that appears under that header.

And yeah, when I cross-post, I have somewhat random results with pics, too. Right now stuff I cross-post seems to have hooked onto Vengeance of the Hunter's cover, and I suppose I can live with that. ;)

[mmegaera]

Ahhh... Found it at last. Thank you.

Well, I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who has Issues with cross-posted pics. Although all mine are blank, alas. Seems like Facebook would want their users to be able to assign a pic to all cross-posted posts. Or to not put anything if there isn't a pic. Anything but that butt-ugly gray spot. Oh, well.