Facebook

[mmegaera]

Obviously I am an utter newbie there (I've had an account for a while, but just started using it this week), and am used to LJ/DW, where my account is my living room and I can tell people I don't appreciate them being rude to me here, but does one's Facebook wall not work that way? How does one deal with someone on one's FL who decides to be a troll about something one has posted, when the rest of the time they seem to be fairly decent? (this is a fellow Bujold listee -- or, rather, he's a former Bujold listee -- and he's on the Bujold Facebook group).

Is the only option simply to defriend them once and for all? Throw the baby out with the bathwater?

Is there a tutorial out there for how to work Facebook on a social rather than technical level? That will teach me how to keep people from being ugly to me on my own wall? Because if there isn't I suspect that's going to be the end of my personal social interaction there. If I can't avoid people being rude directly at me there the way I can here, then I'm not comfortable there. And "just don't interact back" is not an option. I am not a doormat and refuse to become one.

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[annathepiper]

The same principle of "this is my space, so you can't be a jerk to me" applies just as much on Facebook as it does on LJ. If it were me, I'd tell this person that they're being a problem and why, and that you're no longer comfortable with the conversation. And that if they continue to be a problem, you don't want them answering your posts.

You can defriend the person, but that's not your only option. You can also block them. You can delete that specific conversation off your wall and refuse to deal with it any further. Or you can set the filter on it to just be you so nobody else can access it anymore.